Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Understanding Men’s Fear of Commitment – Why Your Man Won’t Commit to You


Emotionally exhausted is how many women feel when they are in love with a man who won’t commit. It almost feels as though you’ve being taken hostage emotionally when you find the man you believe should be your life partner, but he’s too afraid of anything beyond casual dating. When a woman is in this position she often feels torn between staying with the man she adores or ending the relationship so she can search for someone who sees the value in a more serious, tangible connection. If a woman like this can understand the driving force behind men’s fear of commitment, she can than start on a path to gently persuade him to open up and see how wonderful it is to take the relationship to the next level.

One underlying reason for many men’s fear of commitment is the belief that once they agree to a more serious relationship they’ll have to sacrifice too much of their own lives. At first glance this seems selfish to most women but for a man who has lived the majority of his life focused on himself, it’s completely understandable. Much of this fear stems from the fact that many married men like to complain about how much of their time is now devoted to their wife and family. Household duties take precedence and single men see that as a step in the wrong direction. Without being completely obvious you need to send the message to your man that you don’t want to monopolize all his time. The best way to do this is to keep yourself busy. Don’t give up anything in your own life to accommodate him. If he sees that you’re just as interested in your own life as he is, he’ll be much more open to the idea of committing.

Some male commitment fears come from the misunderstanding that their finances will have to change dramatically because their relationship status has. Keep yourself financially independent from your man. Show him that you are more than capable of taking care of your own financial needs and that you don’t have to turn to him for help. If he feels that you two are on equal footing in money matters, he’ll feel less cornered and much more open to committing.

What Makes a Man Fall in Love? Ways to Appeal Directly to His Heart


What makes a man fall in love? Isn’t that the one question all women wish they had an answer to? Most of us struggle through life trying to determine how to get our man to love us as much as we love him. Given the fact that there’s no magic spell we can use to open his heart and get him more connected to us, we have to rely on good old fashioned relationship advice. The true key to winning the heart of a man is to know what appeals to him. Granted all men are different, but there are a few qualities in a woman that virtually every man finds completely and utterly irresistible.

One answer to the question of what makes a man fall in love is a woman who loves herself. Men are accustomed to being with women who go the extra mile to please them. If you’re with a man and you constantly agree with him and do everything that he wants to do, he’s going to become bored very quickly. Men want to be with someone who has a mind of her own and isn’t afraid of sharing her own opinions. You should be the one who strikes up a conversation with him and you should initiate plans at times. Show him that you’re confident in who you are as a person and never compromise what you believe in or feel comfortable with just to please him. He’ll find you more appealing if you always stay true to who you are.

Men also need a woman in their life who is a true supporter of them. It’s easy to become infatuated with a man and fall into the mind frame that everything he does is perfect. Obviously, no one is perfect and if you constantly compliment him on every small thing, he’ll find you disingenuous. Make a point of letting him know that you admire certain qualities he has. Don’t go overboard with this. Just tell him from time-to-time how much you appreciate him and what he brings to your life. If he’s facing a challenge, be right there next to him quietly offering your support. If he doesn’t need or want it, be supportive of that decision to. Men want a woman who is understanding and empathetic. Show him you can be that for him and more and you’ll be well on your way to winning his heart.