Monday, December 1, 2008

Tips For Getting a Man to Fall in Love With You

As women we're often mystified by the things men say and do. We meet an attractive man, we go out on a few dates with him and we ultimately begin to develop strong feelings for him. As is the case with most men, simply telling him that you adore him is likely going to result in him either expressing that he feels the same, or in some cases, he'll make a run for the nearest exit. Too often, we end up crazy about a guy who just isn't ready to commitment. If you're faced with this situation, there are some things you do that will aid in getting a man to fall in love with you and stay committed to you.

We've all heard about how important it is to tell a man everything you're feeling.
The one problem with this is that men don't really know what to do with that information. In many cases, when you tell him every little detail, instead of getting a man to fall in love with you, you're actually scaring him away. Men don't want to be pushed into commitment. They want to make their own decisions. It's up to you, as a woman, not to force him into a commitment.

Another big no-no that many women make when they are either searching for or in a relationship is overwhelming the man. Men want to have their freedom. This is particularly true in the early stages of a relationship. One common thing many men do when they first start dating a woman is to talk about other women. Insecure women tend to take this personally, and will work harder to get the man to focus on them. This might mean, buying new outfits, cooking elaborate dinners or suddenly becoming interested in every one of his interests. The only thing this accomplishes is it makes you boring. The most effective thing you can do if a man starts talking about other women is to encourage him to date them. This will suggest to him that you aren't that invested in him, and it will automatically make him want to pursue you more. This is one of the best tips for getting a man to fall in love with you. It works - just give it a try.

Also, there's a lot of talk about talking to men; on the telephone in particular. If you've read any relationship advice you know that you aren't supposed to pick up the moment he calls, or return all his calls. This seems a bit counter productive if you are actually interested in the man doing the calling. The reason you don't want to always be on the receiving end of his calls is that will eventually find you too available. That availability suggests to him that you are focused on him. Instead let the voicemail pick up, and take some time to return his calls and emails. In other words, live your life. Enjoy the things you like, and he'll automatically become more persistent about seeing you again. When you are working at getting a man to fall in love with you, mystery is vitally important.

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